But so important when I look at that pyrimid. 6. The best is on Twitter, though, so do go and follow her. Wearing the trousers Cocky EVER heard a man described as being feisty, frumpy or bossy? Amicable - She is friendly and cares about the needs of others. The men call male guests boss and chief. I actually want sure why some of those words were in the list, a few of them werent female-exclusive. Also, how do we get this demeaning language out of movies and shows? Are you inferring that females are incapable of debate? Love pillows (usually pronounced luuurv pilloz) This is what I think: the world would be a better place if everyone stopped talking about and to women like this, especially ifits because theyre identifying and eradicatingtheir own, sometimes unconscious, sexism. What I dont understand is why words like nurturing should be taken as such an insult. Like a girl (run like a girl, throw like a girl). Baby blues I looked minger up today and all its synonyms and related idioms. Nurturing. I still have lots of sexist words and phrase to cover here! My father also insulted my interest in things like ballet, theatre, museums and art galleries by variously calling these interests pretentious, snobby, stuck up and arty-farty. A white guy trying to emulate a black rapper with overtly sexist, hateful lyrics. Debate is masculine and can harm depending on intention of the individual. Anyone elses judgement of what is valuable, or not, is subjective TO THEM, and thus not relevant to somebody elses circumstances. When I managed people, I had to do countless interviews, evaluations, etc. Theres nothing wrong withbeing bubbly, but if its a word used to underestimate and undervalue womens other qualities, maybe its one to relegate. document.getElementById( "ak_js_1" ).setAttribute( "value", ( new Date() ).getTime() ); Women Connect4Good, Inc. All Rights Reserved. Lots of to think about, and in the mean time, my husband and I can play bingo when we go to visit my f-in-law next week! I feel for the younger generation of women coming through and hope they are not subjected to the same level of sexism but alas, a lot of young men are still being brought up as being the privileged gender, expecting to be the main breadwinner and having a wife at home to raise the children and do all the housework. Thank you! I dont think anyones trying to ignore bad behavior, by banning use of the word bossy, Godar says. You may like to do some further reading. Oh shes lovely is basically like saying oh she knows her place.. This is the favourite term of disparagement in my workplace towards any female manager who has a vision she wants to implement. Women do get their periods and menstruate and also have curvy bodies. Great list! 11. And how I wish that all of them cold be somehow eradicated, or have their insulting message diffused. The Little Lady I have variously been unfairly called difficult, disobedient, rebellious and challenging by both my parents, and teachers because I was an active girl, who asked a lot of detailed questions about subjects in class, had a passion for learning, wanted to study in greater depth than teachers allowed, and was always curious and inquisitive. I feel like handsome as a general adjective was more common 100-200 years ago (Im thinking Anne of Green Gables usage! Interestingly, Lerner points out that although anger is a natural emotion shared by both males and females, angry is an insulting term to describe WOMEN, but rarely if ever men. ), Insulting names for female body parts (makes me want to vomit if somebody talks about bodies this way): or might compare women to sub-human animals, such as bitch, chick, dog, cow, horse, pig, porker. Thanks so much for putting this on my radar. It was my fault that I only had one child as I was too much of a career woman and too selfish. You are doing more harm than good, and your fellow women know it! Remember this pyramid? I tell them what I need too in a respectful way. Feminism is neither a dying cause, nor one that is doing more harm than good. Thank you for your video and the lists; I found them to be helpful, however I do not agree with some points with Tone Policing. That book really opened my eyes and changed my thinking and behaviour Words like pretty and beautiful are used to describe things that evoke strong emotion. 77 Synonyms & Antonyms of BOSSY - Merriam Webster The gender of the person writing the review didnt affect the results of the study. While women (of child-bearing age) are discouraged from wearing a wedding ring to interviews because Well, shes just going to get pregnant and leave in a year, and the on-boarding process is expensive. (Forget about the health insurance!) When men and women display the same behaviours in, say, a workplace, men are much more likely to be called assertive confident, powerful or a strong leader, while women get this list. I was away from home with my 2 year old daughter for a few days and needed to distract her for a few minutes so found some kids TV. someone who is bossy keeps telling other people what to do, in a way that annoys them, telling people what to do and refusing to listen to their opinions, deliberately involving yourself in other peoples lives and trying to influence the way that they behave, although you have no right to do this, an overbearing person always tries to control other peoples behaviour and ignores their opinions and feelings, trying to control other people and make them obey you, telling people what to do without caring what they think, frequently asking or telling someone to do something in a way that annoys them, involving yourself in situations that you have no right to be involved in, becoming involved in something in a way that is not welcome, always criticizing someone, or always telling them to do things, showing that you are used to being obeyed or expect to be obeyed, expecting other people to work very hard and carefully, confident and expecting to be obeyed and respected by people, informal giving advice or telling people how to behave, in a way that is annoying, stating what should happen, or what someone should do, informal extremely determined to get what you want, even if it annoys other people. You dont make any sense. I have been called a selfish career woman by my prudish, hyper-religious mother-in-law. When two men or groups of men are debating, we call it debating, or discussion. Why this insult? And when we see behavior that needs correcting, lests use words that describe accurately the behaviors they need to improve. The Womens Media Center has a several-page glossary of sexist terms with context and, critically, gender-neutral synonyms. See also https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Whataboutism. There is a serious problem in the healthcare industry where female patients are assumed to be dramatic or hysterical about their symptoms (or their childrens) , and this can be very, very costly. When letters make sounds that aren't associated w One goose, two geese. Pancake chest The point being, however, that society is erring when it tries to suggest that such things are exclusively female roles this is what Feminists try to point out. It was a programme called Milkshake which is basically an MC between shows. Yes, women at times can be bitchy. Im taking an educated guess here, but I think the Bible was written by males, from a male point of view. YES, a lot of these words are things we can attempt stop using, and the same goes for certain words towards men. You dont make any sense. He went on to accuse me of expecting everyone to conform to my way of thinking. Have you heard about the campaign to #banbossy? I was looking for language that propagates violence against women, and while this list isnt that exactly, it was still helpful. Reviews of women only ever used aggressive as a criticism. What gives? Invite others to join in 9. A new way you can give me time to write this kind of article is through Patreon. These basically mean disagreeing while female. So here is my list so far ofdozens of sneakily sexist words to get us all thinking. The same happened to me. Grow up Shall we chat further in the comments? You tell it as it is because you know you're telling the truth. Or, maybe, I have just met bad examples? I like how you comment really gets to the meat of the matter. Performance review gender bias: High-achieving women are - Fortune Active Adaptable Adventurous Affable Amiable Amicable Amusing Brave Bright Calm Careful Charming Circumspect Communicative Compassionate Conscientious Considerate Courageous Courteous Creative Determined Diligent Diplomatic Discreet Dynamic Empathetic Energetic Faithful Fearless Friendly Funny Generous Gentle Good Gregarious Helpful Honest Hopeful Shrill. I grew up with two older brothers, and a father who is pretty dominant, and so much of this is just (I think) completely unconscious for them, and so for me too. My male sixth-grade teacher took me outside our classroom and told me I was too bossy. Assertive: a woman who is able to assert her own needs and wants. There are certainly some here that I have not considered before and will update my list accordingly. Junk in the trunk Words like bossy, abrasive, strident, and aggressive are used to describe women's behaviors when they lead; words like emotional and irrational describe their behaviors when they. If you consider yourself a misunderstood, independent woman, the following probably describes you. It appears you do not actually fully understand it. That study has been out for so long, theres no excuse to not be aware of it, especially if youre going to position yourself as someone who can disprove it. Just a bit baffled, J.C. in what way do you imply that debate is masculine? I cant say Ive ever read an article that Ive disagreed with just to comment Youre all just overly-sensitive and offended! But maybe thats just not my personality. SCOLDING This is a great article. Im so grateful that in the 21st centuary doctors are being trained differently than they were when i was a child and Im very pleased that I can stand my ground with the doctors despite being unwell and stressed. Nut-crusher As if rising in a chosen endeavor is trickery and subterfuge for a female, but aptitude and perseverance for a male. This article is quite validating and I feel better about initiating the conversation. Indeed, changing how we talk to and about women will help us dismantle rape culture and raise kids who are world-changers. Ive added most of the suggestions to this list, though Ive omitted a great number of the direct insults that we can all recognise as sexist (even if some peoplethink they are acceptable for use.). Wifey The words in todays post are sprinkled liberally throughall three of the bottom layers, and even higher. But youre right, its definitely not used now for anything other than men, whereas pretty and beautiful are general-purpose. Whilst it is important to value people for themselves, it is also important to understand issues before you start making comments about them. If youve found this article thoughtful and useful, and would like to support me to write more stuff like this, head on over. Baby mother/Baby momma Actually she was highly intelligent and accomplished beyond belief and her mind just raced forward and she didnt have time for bullshit because of her enormous workload. conversation in a workplace! Coworkers labeled as "bossy" are described as unpopular and unlikely to be successful in the future, and "bossy" women coworkers are seen as more unpopular and less successful compared to "bossy" men coworkers. Share Improve this answer Follow edited Oct 31, 2013 at 19:48 answered Oct 31, 2013 at 19:19 Lumberjack