Hes from Ohio, grew up wrestling and playing football, had never watched the Blue Devils. ), "Many nights we would be in our pj's, sitting on the floor and watching film with the staff," says Krzyzewski's middle daughter, Lindy Frasher. A trinket from West Point? That was the start of it., Mikula told OConnor that Knight was sitting in a corner table with several former Army coaches when Krzyzewski went over to him and got down on a knee just to see him eye to eye, and everyone else kind of continued their conversations. Whats also true is that Jamie and her two older sisters grew up around their father, gradually learning to navigate his emphases and quirks. Duke held off Indiana 81-78. He still has an athlete's build, but he walks stiffly after a series of orthopedic surgeries: two hip replacements and an operation on his back. His purpose is a higher one. A very fine, very weepy Weeper, she says. Lindy and Frasher started dating, and he picked up that the safest way to address Krzyzewski is by Coach. Not K, which his daughters hate, and never Mike. Frasher also learned about Krzyzewskis ruthless intensity and self-punishment following a loss. They remembered details. Here he argues a call in a 2013 game against Virginia. They were future C.E.O. Somehow the analogy always came back to basketball, Lindy says. Rejecting that kind of money, as Krzyzewski did, was its own kind of life-changing event -- "a point of demarcation," his agent, David Falk, calls it. 2023 www.indystar.com. All of his children has followed in his footsteps and attended Duke, undoubtedly making their father proud. CBS Sports is a registered trademark of CBS Broadcasting Inc. Commissioner.com is a registered trademark of CBS Interactive Inc. site: media | arena: collegebasketball | pageType: stories | Lindy says her dad is so compartmentalized that he often doesnt remember many of his on-court eruptions or the fact that he initially wanted even his grandchildren to call him Coach before Mickie and everyone else nixed that. Late Saturday night, Coach K knew when it was time to say goodbye. Before that, he graduated from the United States Military Academy, where he played basketball. Because Krzyzewski attracts kids who tend to feel secure, and not just about basketball, he can put pressure on them similar to what he experienced at West Point, knowing that even when they fail, they are unlikely to feel like failures. Is Krzyzewski smug? "I mathematically modeled problems in finance. When he recruits a player, Krzyzewski tells him, "We're developing a relationship here, and if you're not interested, tell me sooner rather than later." Its a shrewd act of political deference, suggesting they need the big mans help in making the final decision. He had been in the water before -- Lake Michigan -- but only up to his waist. I was a West Point grad, and I was a good husband. Who makes up Krzyzewski family tree with Duke, "Having the talent that Mike has -- the best, the brightest -- makes some things easier and some things harder," he says. The packaging of Krzyzewski's methods as a business school product is mostly Sitkin's doing. This kind of thing has happened hundreds of times over the years.". In addition, Duke Corporate Education, which consults to businesses, has developed a program that uses Krzyzewski's methods as a teaching tool. "He believes in us so much, and we believe in him so much that whatever he tells us to do," Paulus says, "we're going to do it to the best of our ability. Knight is the most obvious influence on Krzyzewski's career and coaching methods, but by no means the most important; his wife has long been that. But as Krzyzewski took the reins at Duke and became a rising star in the coaching ranks, the tone gradually shifted. Attracting top talent to Durham was not the slam dunk it is now. And thats just a sad-looking tree.. This may be your daughter, but this is my family. There were some real mind games going on, and no, that tree is going to stay right there.. "You gotta go just like this," he said as he formed his right hand into a claw, then extended it toward me and rotated his wrist as if he were about to rip my chest open. Game day is not a day for long, drawn-out speeches. They remembered the feeling that the detail brought, and the feeling before that, where as men we remember only the final feeling. Back injury, sitting out changed history for Sign up to our newsletter to stay in touch with your cultura. I know it is. But he wont be returning to the arena, and that will hurt more than anything. You can be damn sure that every guy on my team says that. This year's team is a case in point. Previously, Steve worked for The State (Columbia, SC), Herald-Journal (Spartanburg, S.C.), The Sun Herald (Biloxi, Miss. Beautiful because those tears proved how much his kids cared, and how hard they had competed. "It's sort of a protective thing, too," she says. So, three national championships and 10 Final Four appearances, all achieved with his usual roster of clean-cut all-Americans, and now this: the high priest of Blue Devils basketball as corporate icon. Getting his diploma at West Point in 1969. Jamie imagines the scene, smiling as she pictures her dad walking outside one morning and discovering it still in its pot, situated in a prominent place in his manicured yard. They know it before they even arrive. (Andrew D. Bernstein/NBAE via Getty Images), Krzyzewski with his wife, Mickie, and daughters Debbie, Lindy and Jamie in 1991. Judy Rosener, an expert on gender differences in leadership who has written for the Harvard Business Review and other publications, told me that men and women respond to different signals. Her eyes widen. OConnor details additional rifts in the relationship, including Knights anger that Krzyzewski did not accept his offer to help him scout for Team USA prior to the 2008 Olympics. Michael William Krzyzewski then resigned his military commission, worked for one year as a graduate assistant to Knight (who had taken over at Indiana) and then -- without ever having served as a full-fledged assistant coach in college -- accepted a job as head coach back at West Point. But Krzyzewski has since had unparalleled success. Krzyzewski's teams turn a yearly profit for Duke. The Krzyzewski brand is so strong that he need not be physically present when Duke Corporate Education (which is separate from the leadership center) teaches Duke basketball as metaphor. Krzyzewski is at far left. According to reports from The Wall Street Journal, Mickie was the only person who could persuade him to stand down during the 199495 season, when he suffered a back injury. He played for Bob Knight at Army, and early in his coaching career, he adopted some of Knights more infamous coaching habits, often being combative with journalists and belittling players to the point of making them cry. He lives on 12 secluded acres in Durham, where he spends much of his free time tending his extensive flower gardens. Some are rare, valued in the thousands, theoretically reserved for special occasions. Ive been blessed to be in the arena, Krzyzewski said. A post shared by Duke Mens Basketball (@dukembb). https://www.nytimes.com/2006/02/05/magazine/follow-me.html. (Army Athletics), With the United States Army's travel team in 1971. Jamie and Chris shrugged because isnt a plant just a plant? Nobody has ever come at them like that before. And then turning down millions to stay on campus. Krzyzewski and his wife have also been active for years in fundraising and support for the Duke Childrens Hospital, Childrens Miracle Network, the V Foundation for Cancer Research. Mark Williams missed two crucial free throws late, followed by a Caleb Love 3-pointer that was the dagger. It is far more difficult, but ultimately more rewarding, to try to understand it. She actually went as far as to give her husband an ultimatumif he wanted to come home on what would prove to be his final day of coaching that season, he needed to skip practice and go to the doctor. It rained, and my tent just floated away. Because what does Coach K actually want from this? And so I played that game with them: Still got the god---- Weeper, huh? Jon Scheyer, who was on Duke's 2010 national championship team and has served on Krzyzewski's bench since April 2013, will speak publicly Friday. While this is sad news for college basketball fans everywhere, its a positive thing for his family, whom he can spend more time with post-retirement. Eventually he started talking like old warriors talk. Mack, of Morgan Stanley, is one, along with Steve Wynn, the Las Vegas casino magnate, and Schwartz at Bear Stearns. It's a half-day of a weeklong program and is taught primarily by Krzyzewski's student managers. Lindy graduated from Wake Forest in 1999 with a psychology degree with minors in Spanish and theater. ), The 1992 Dream Team coaching staff, from left: Lenny Wilkens, Chuck Daly, Mike Krzyzewski and P.J. This is hardly profound. One of the lessons is that the best shooter does not always get to take the shot; sometimes he has to pass the ball or set a screen. Krzyzewski can be goofy, doubling over in laughter when Frasher makes an easy joke about, say, a blowfish. Krzyzewski played three years for Knight. Nobody stays lucky for a quarter-century. The first three won a combined 38 games, against 47 losses. He was 33. "Remember that this was before the time that TV cameras showed the families in the stands as a point of interest. But there is a larger truth to keep in mind. Still, in a sport that draws heavily from a poor, inner-city population, Krzyzewski gets more than his share of kids who are the sons of white-collar professionals, teachers, nurses, coaches and pastors. After completing his commitment to the Army, he spent five years on Dukes mens basketball staff as a graduate assistant and director of basketball operations. Jamie was caught in the middle of this, essentially two rams clashing over a tree nobody liked. ", One definition of leadership is, simply, the ability to give constructive criticism -- to demand better performance in a way that inspires rather than deflates. Debbie graduated from Duke in 1993 with a sociology degree. Web111 Mickie Krzyzewski Photos and Premium High Res Pictures - Getty Images CREATIVE EDITORIAL VIDEO All Sports Entertainment News Archival Browse 111 mickie No one can replicate Jack Welch's General Electric, but maybe if you listen to him closely enough, and read and reread his best-selling books, you can learn a little something to take back to your own shop.